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DiscussionAny comments on this web site? Click and type in a question or comment Author Needed: Hello, I'm looking for an Author, to be featured in an article I'm publishing on a new website (there is no cost to you). If this sounds like something you might be interested, please email me direct at josephmiswaco@yahoo.com. Sincerely, Joseph Michael Hernandez Virtual Assistant Dear Martha, I just wanted to tell you what a wonderful gift for me In my time of loss.You have said in the pages of this book exactly what i feel and it speeks to me everyday in such a way. I know now that someday I will get better with the grief I feel .Before your book I didnt believe I ever would. Now I have hope again and Its all because of your book. Your book Is the best gift I ever got and without It I dont know what I would have done. God bless you for what you have given me. You put In words what I feel everyday...Its like you are In my daily life your words fit what I feel on a daily basis I know your book was an answer from God to help me through this. Thank you so much! Blessings, Debbie Ball Knoxville Tn. Dearest Martha, Thank you for your open heart, your tender honesty and your light on this path that often threatens darkness. With gratitude, Jan...Shannon's Mom I am seeking a large print edition of this wonderful book. Dear Martha. Your book Healing after Loss continues to help me every single day since I lost my Dad almost 3 years ago, and my Mom last year. I have given your book to at least a dozen people I know who have experienced loss, and every single one is profoundly moved and helped by your work. (I always keep a few on hand). Thank you so very much. God Bless you. Does "Healing After Loss" come in big print? If so, where might I purchase one? Thank you, Sandy Dear Martha I have to talk to u about ur book so I need ur email address and I didnt find in google, could you give me ur personal email here, thank you, katy Dear Martha, Words cannot express how thankful I am that I found your book. My son, Michael, 20 years old, passed in January of SUDEP, Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy. We are a military family stationed in Japan. To be halfway across the world without my family and closest friends and grieving has been more difficult than I can tell you. I read Healing After Loss every day and it has helped me grieve and understand so much. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you. ~Sherry Meade Dear Mrs Hickman, I don't know how to thank you enought for your book Healing After Loss. It has been a lifeline to me following the deaths of both my husband and youngest son over th last few years. It has brought me immense comfort and I thank you so very much. I have since written my own book soon to be released by lewellyn Worldwide. It's subject is the year following my sons death and the journey through the blackest night until finally - By Morning's Light - I began to heal. I wonder if you do book reviews and if you might vbe interested in having a look at mine for a possible endorsement. Kind Regards, Ginny Brock Dear Martha, Our 25 year old son died in June of 2009. As you well know, this has been devastating. I was given and recommended many books about losing a child, but one of the mothers we met in our Grieving Parents Workshop recommended Healing After Loss about 6 mos. after Nick died. It is still on my bedside stand, and I read it every evening. It is a wonderful, wonderful book, that has helped me immensely. Dear Martha, I lost my husband in April, 2011, to a very aggressive form of cancer. It has been a very challenging, emotional time. My sister gave me your book, "Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief." I read it first thing in the morning, before the bible, newspaper, etc. Your words are so comforting and give me hope that I will survive life without my precious love of 42 years. I have recommended it to a friend who just suffered a loss. It is truly the best. Thank you. Hi Martha, I am not sure what I am going to say. I had a dream last night and dreamed the name "Martha Whitmore". I googled and your website came up.I am currently writing my first book which is about spirituality, evolving and health and living a joyful and soulfilled life. I am classically trained as a physiotherapist but now teach intuition and the use of imagination in living a life of optimal health and vitality.Your book "My friend William is moving away." struck me. I have a friend William who is moving to the USA shortly [we are in Australia]. I have just now realised that I love him as more than a friend and I am struggling with whether to tell him. I do not want to distract him from his purpose. There is a character in your book called Mary Ellen. My grandmother was Mary Ellen and I am named after her. Not sure what it all means. Thankyou, Much love, Ellen Lake my son has been gone since november 2011...we were to take a family vacation and our flight was to leave at 7 am....at 3 am the police came to tell me our son had taken his own life after a police chase...i am looking for help of course...think there will never be answers but know there are others like me... Dear Martha, I write to update you and to express my appreciation once again for your amazing book, "Healing After Loss". I came across it at Barnes and Noble almost 10 years ago after the unexpected death in her sleep of my 20 year old daughter. I read many books, some metaphysical, others heavily religious, and most somehow missed the mark to help me explore my grief in a way that would lead me to feel I would survive the experience. Your was then, and remains today the best and brightest exception. It is the one book I continue to read again and again, and the only book I give others who are grieving losses in their lives. It is one reason I volunhteer as a grief facilitator at a facility for children who have suffered loss. I put a copy in the parents' room, and I know it helps the many parents who come there to help their children find their way, and to find their own. It is incredibly comforting to read the thoughts of so many of the brightest minds that have ever suffered loss, and all have! It is consoling to read the words of philosophers, teachers, theologians, clerics, musicians and other Humans you have encountered in your journey. When I bought your book I could not then know why it was bound so durably, and its paper stock so hefty. Ten years of reading later I am so very thankful that even that extra consideration was made by your publisher! I hope these words find you well, and your family tucked close enough to wrap their arms around you! Thanks again, David Dillman Dear Martha, My son died when he was 11, it was sudden. I had many books pushed onto me and none of them helped. My sister in law gave me a copy of Healing After Loss and I read it faithfully. I liked it because it was one page and it was all relevant. It was truely inspirational. Thank you, Betsy Harwood, Maine Dear Martha, My beautiful son, 28 years old, took his own life on April 17, 2011. He had addiction issues and suffered from depression. A dear friend gave me a copy of "Healing After Loss", a book that helped her cope with the loss of her husband. I read it daily, am inspired by it, and find that it gives me hope that there is a way out of this abyss. We are grieving mightily. I know that you understand all too well what it's like to lose a child. Laura Dear Martha, I recently lost a friend of mine at the young age of 31. Her teenage son is having extreme difficulty talking to anyone in the family about his sorrow and it has raised tremendous amount of worry. Do you have any suggestions as to what his father might be able to do in order to get him to open up to him? I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you in advance. Stacy I just found your book Healing After Loss yesterday in a wonderful bookstore in Spokane, WA where I am working for 2 weeks. We lost our beloved daughter on April 4. She was 16 and very disabled and though we knew her life would not be long her death happened suddenly and unexpectedly. Thank you so much for this beautiful and important book. Jody (Burlingame, CA) May 25, 2011 Dear Martha, I'm not sure where I got your book, Healing After Loss, but it speaks to me more than any book I've read after losing my mom March 4. Mom was ready to go. She was nearly 102. I thought I was ready for her to go. Our journey was tinged with tragedy and wonder and hardship and redemption and forgiveness. She required much care in her last decade and I was alone with that task--except for the physical caregiving, which I hired caregivers to perform. When she died (unexpectedly actually), I was convinced that I would feel relieved for her and for me--that I would be able to "get on with my life." But wow, was I wrong. I have been very reasonable with my grief, but last night it hit me hard. I couldn't sleep so I moved to our second bedroom. At 4:30 I was sobbing so loud--wailing even--that I woke up my husband. He came in and sat with me until I stopped. After we talked for awhile, I retrieved your book from my desk and brought it back to bed...I opened to May 19 because I had skipped a few days. I read, "Many of us have been slow to recognize the value of expressing the full force of anguish and despair. We may think displays of strong emotions are somehow unseemly." Aha! One of so many helpful insights in this book that speak to me. Thank you. I have been writing a blog about Taking Care of Mom for a couple of years and thought it would end when she died. I now write about what I'm experiencing and learning about grief (www.marthagoudey.wordpress.com). Your book is a big part of that path of learning and today's post will acknowledge your book. Thank you and bless you, Martha Hi Martha, My name is Gina and I am a journalism student. I am writing a paper on the struggles college students face when a loved one has passed away while they are in school. If possible, I would love to talk to you about coping strategies and expected behaviors of young adults after they have lost someone. Your insight will really help my paper and I know you would be the perfect person to talk to. My number is 714 390-7259. Please contact me ASAP. Many thanks in advance, Gina I forgot to sign off in the comment below. In appreciation, Janeen janeen.norland@wil.midco.net Dear Martha, I echo the sentiments of everyone else in this forum. Your book "Healing After Loss" has become my grief Bible since my 29 year old son Josh died by suicide 3 years ago. You have validated so many of my feelings. I have given your book along with "I Will Not Leave You Desolate" to other grieving parents. Our local S.O.S. group (Survivors of Suicide) opens each meeting with a reading from your book. You have such a public voice and we would ask your help in educating others and raising public awareness concerning the term "committed suicide"(see March 26 reading). Since your book was first published progress has been made in this area but it is oh so slow. People "committ" crimes...our loved ones have not committed crimes; they took their lives out of desperation and feelings of hopelessness, the majority due to depression. Depression is an illness. Anyone who has had a loved one died by suicide is helped in their grief by the use of nonjudgmental language. Compassionate Friends International has officially adopted the terms "died by suicide" or "died of suicide" and strongly encourages everyone to use the new language when talking or writing about suicide.May God continue to bless you in your work as you help heal the hearts of so many with your words that have to be God-inspired. Dear Martha, I am completing a book that was fueled by feelings I had and continue to have with respect to the loss of my husband. I ran into a quote of yours online, that fully describes the feeling I had when I went to Europe to visit family and dear friends and found that no one was able to talk to me about what had happened. Your quote said it all, and I would like to include it in my book it is as follows: "sometimes with the best of intentions, friends don't know how to help. They may feel that to bring up the subject of our loss is to risk making us feel worse, so they avoid it (or us) and then talk of other things, all the while the presence of the unspoken, builds up to an almost intolerable pressure. I need a friend who will be totally in it with me, without an attempt to distract or solve." A strange forum to ask permission..but hope you read it and approve. Best, Yvette N. B. Hi Martha, I feel compelled to let you know how comforting your daily meditations are for me on this journey through grief. Last year, my daughter died of a brain tumour at age 23. Somehow, knowing that you lost a child too helps me understand that I am not alone. Thank you for your wonderful words. They resonate so much and help me to stay afloat - most of the time! Hi Martha, I live in Nashville, and lost my 26 yr old daughter, Aly, to colon cancer just 3 weeks ago. We lost her within 3 months after the diagnosis. A friend gave me your book at Aly's Life Celebration Service, and I read it with my husband daily. Somehow it's more comforting to me than traditional "Christian" books. Thank you or sharing through your loss. I also wrote a book about healed marriages, called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" It's a collection of 21 true stories of saved marriages, mine being the first. Our marriage of 33 years has survived infidelity, alcohol, drug and porn addictions, verbal abuse, co-dependency, metal illness, and now the death of a child. But our marriage has never been better. God is so good. Blessings on your long and loving marriage. Mae Dear Martha, I recently lost my Mom, and my sister-in -law gave me your book, Healing After Loss.. As I opened the book I noticed the memorial was for Bill and Sudie.. My Mom's nickname was Sudie.. Could you please share who Sudie is in your life? Ir was very meaningful to me and my family... My email address is Kittkat124@yahoo.com I would love to hear from you.. Sincerely, Catherine M. I think you are a wonderful, insightful writer. I finished your grief book yesterday. Thank you for writing your thoughts. I identify with much of what you wrote about and thank you sincerely. Dear Martha, I just received your book yesterday, " Healing After Loss". Our Mother just passed and it was given to me as a gift for healing. I was curious to who Bill and Sudie are in the forward of the book. My mother was always called Sudie.. Could you please respond.. Sincerely, Catherine My husband and I have given your book "Healing After Loss" to countless people who have lost loved ones over the years. Many have expressed how much your book has helped them. My husband lost his mother in 1995 and he read your book and said it helped him tremendously. That was when we decided to start giving it to others working through grief. Your book has been a blessing to many people. Thank you so much. Judy Butler After 13 1/2 years, I still keep your book close by and open it for inspiration from time to time. The loss of my son in 1997 led me to find your book. I now buy it for others who are in need and in grief. I am online now to buy one for my brother who buried his 22 year old son 3 weeks ago. Thank you for giving us this treasure. For two years I have been reading each day your book "Healing After Loss". I have given/recommended this book to many. You touch upon the reality of the essence of what a person is suffering from the loss. And you complete the work by giving insight of how to approach a new level of dealing with life. Thank you for sharing your gift Your book, Healing After Loss, has helped several of my friends greatly. Has it ever been translated into German? I know a woman who needs the book in her own language. Thanks, Nickie (nickie.polson@gmail.com) I am a foster parent and I just wanted to say thankyou. Some of the books you have written help foster children cope with situations they are going through. Dear Martha,I first came across your book "Healing After Loss"two months'after the loss of my wonderful 21 yr.son.A dear friend had taken me to lunch to"cheer"me up...we were going through a small bookstore, when I came across your wonderful book.That was ten yrs'ago!I still read your book every day.The passages in it have a different meaning for me now than they did in those dark months'following his death.I cannot thank you enough for your beautiful and soothing words.They have helped me get through some very dark days and nights!!! Dear Martha, I feel like I know you. I started reading your "Healing After Loss" 14 months ago when our 12 year old daughter died in a skiing accident. My husband and I have 3 sons, and our daughter had previously done some horseback riding. I read your book over and over during these (still) dark and difficult days. I am inspired by your ability to move forward- especially finding joy in family and your sons and grandchildren. Sometimes it seems like only one who has walked in these shoes can begin to understand. Thank you for your books. Linda Serpe serpe@aol.com I too would like to thank-you for your book "Healing After Loss". We lost our amazing, talented and handsome 24-year old son Marc 3 months ago. I have read and researched many books and websites dealing with grief. Your book,in particular has been so helpful and comforting. I cannot believe how each and every quote and thought in your book has assisted me in dealing with our son's passing. I can easily relate to each page. How fortunate I was to have found your book. You're an angel....thank-you, thank-you thank-you. Michael Arnault in Calgary, Alberta canada Just wanted to thank you for your book Healing after loss. I've bin reading every day for three years since my 18 year old son died. Thank for helping get through every day with your words of wisdom. God defiantly had a plan for you. John L Hi, Martha! I went to Edgehill during the time you and Hoyt were there (in the late 70's, early 80's mostly). Currently, I work as a grief counselor at Alive Hospice in Nashville. We often read from AND recommend your "Healing After Loss" book. I was hunting for you today because I am in search of a writers' group. I recall an article in the Tennessean years ago featuring you and your writers' group! If you remember me, I write songs, too. I wrote a song when I joined Edgehill called "No Better Day." I would love for you to contact me - if you like - at ruth@ruthwilliams.com. My maiden name was Ruth Ransdell. I have a masters in Church and Community from Scarritt is how I "found" Edgehill. (I then went on and got my MSSW from UTCSW.) So glad to hear you are doing well! Sending blessings and thanks for your marvelous contributions through the years - in so many ways! In JOY, Ruth Thank you for your book "A Day of Rest". After a lay-off last year, I tossed myself head first into a doctoral program. I'm not done it yet, but I'm done all but one course in the course phase. I just wrapped up the most recent semester this week and will start the next semester in about three weeks. Reading over your book, "A Day of Rest", helped to remind me that a fallow field does yield a better crop in terms of quality and quantity. I think that I first heard of your book from the MHC Quarterly. You mentioned western MA in the book. I'm trying to figure out, did you attend MHC? Thanks again for your book! Nina Dowlin Dorothy shared your website. So glad to feel like I had a visit with you. So glad to hear that you and Hoyt are doing well and happy in California. Edgehill surely was the looser in that move. Take care and keep writing. Dan McEachern Thank you for your book Healing After Loss. I lost my son (33 years old) in an accident last November and have not been myself since. But reading your daily notes somehow is soothing. My son and I were very close, so he is missed dearly. Thank you. jose Hi Martha, I forgot to give you MY email address: beryl.ingram@fumcbellevue.org. thanks Martha, I am absolutely THRILLED to see the notices for The Walls Come Tumbling Down. I loved the word plays in "Jericho Rhodes." So, I hope you'll send me your email, or at least ask Hoyt to send me his. If I can find a way would you two come to Seattle area for a book signing, etc.???? I have wanted to get Hoyt up here forever and this is great impetus!!!!!!! Also, hello to him from someone he went either to college or Epworth League with, maiden name Genevive Chisolm (? I may have the wrong last name) Her married name was Tomlinson. Anyway, I would love to be in touch. thank you for putting me on the mailing list. Beryl Ingram When my husband died unexpectedly (of a heart attack) on 12/31/08 (at the age of 60), his sister gave me your book "Healing After Loss". She had received your book as a gift when her husband died of lung cancer at the age of 51. What a wonderful book! Since receiving your book, I've purchased at least 10 copies to give to others when a family has died. Every one has thanked me for your book and commented that it's been a wonderful source of comfort each day. Thank you for your compassion, talent & spirituality. Ruth Orem, Sun City West, AZ I hope you are doing well. Do you have a new email address? I have tried to email you and have your emails returned from youtome@marthawhitmorehickman.com Do you have a new address? Dear Martha, Our wonderful almost 23 year old son committed suicide this past August after battling bipolar disorder for many years. I am so unbelievably sad. Our grief counselor read to us from your book "Healing After Loss" and I have found it to be extremely comforting. It is part of my daily routine as I struggle to put my life back together. Thank you so much for your work. your website mentioned an essay on the loss of your Dad. I recently lost my Dad and it is just so hard. He lived a long and wonderful and happy life...we all adored him. So, I am curious to read anything about the loss of a father...thanks so much...Pattie Morrison pmorrison57@comcast.net dear Martha--My darling daughter Stephanie, a graduate of Brandeis U committed suicide three years ago this Thanksgiving after being on medication since 1992 for Depression. It's a long story...I, myself retired from a community college two weeks ago My husband and I and our other two daughters have read many books this past three years on grief. Yours has been especially comnforting. It's our daily reading this past year and I have given a few copies to other grieving parents. Thank you. My daughter left many poems - her degrees were in English and American Lit as is mine...as well as short stories. Also, I have kept journals of her illness over the past 14 years. So far I have only written many 'slices of life' pieces..I'm hoping that in the New Year I will be able to bring myself to put together our story... it's been most helpful reading your Web site, Biography etc., Joan White Martha- I love this website- full of information about you, your family and your books! Isn't technology wonderful! Nancy Ware I have just read 'such good people' after finding it in a second hand shop and want you to know it touched me. I'm so sorry you lost your daughter and all the things that her life lived longer would have brought to you. Thank you for writing about her and your life, I wish you joy and peace, and much success with such eloquent and thoughtful writing. Annie, Australia Annie, Australia Hi Martha: I would like to contact you. Please advise an address. Thank you. Diana Stephenson Martha, love your new website! EEPs Creeps and The Reason I haven't finished.... bring back such fun memories! Love you too, Margaret Howell Awesome website! Crisp, accessible, inviting. It helps, of course, that the subject of the website is a bit awesome herself. Well Done...I like the insights into your work! karen nashville, tn Any comments on my books? Click and type in a question or comment When my sister died eight months ago, I was in a state of shock. It was very sudden. She was walking home from work in NYC and just dropped dead. We did not perform and autopsy because in the last seven years we have been thru much tragedy and deaths. My own mom died 8 years ago, my two cousins died within a year of each other, very suddenly and my nephew died in a tragic car accident three years ago. I went on line to look for a book to help me go thru my depression and anxiety at the loss of my closest friend, my sister and found your book. I ordered it immediately and keep it near my bed and read the daily passages. Some of the quotes are absolutely wonderful and speak about how I feel right now or will feel. Thank you so much for your this book. I have read others in the past eight months which helped me, but yours in particular and the story you told about your own daughter seemed to reach me more than the others. Margot Morris County, NJ Martha, I join the other grieving people who have written to thank you for the wonderful gift of Healing after Loss. A friend gave it to me a year ago after the sudden death of my beloved husband,age 61, the love of my life. The book has helped me every day. And now, although a year has passed, I'm still reading and embracing the message. And I've given the book to others. Thank you, dear Martha. with gratitude, BJ Derham Dear Martha, I lost my fiancé after we bought a home together. He died in a horribly disfiguring accident on our property and in my presence. Months had passed and still moments bring me to the grief to which I had had feelings of never finding my way back to living again. I’ve been in therapy and am reading books in search of something to hold onto. A friend gave me “Healing After Loss”. The first thing I read was so very encouraging. It was July 19. Since that day I’ve carried this little book with me, and each meditation seamed like it was written especially for me. It has validated who I am, and my actions as I grow and reinvent who I will become without my Terry and with all the memories I chose to carry with me. Thank you for this book. Jeanette, Santa Cruz, California. Dear Martha, I read all the comments in the DISCUSSION portion of your website. HEALING AFTER LOSS is a unanimous tool for helping grievers get through. My Mom left for the Other Side, last year. Each morning I look forward to your beautiful meditations to start my day. You are eloquent, wise, and present with your comforting words. I feel PEACE as I read and an understanding that I'm part of something larger than I am able to name. Thank You so much, Jill jillmenecker@ymail.com Dear Martha, I can't tell you how much your book "Healing after Loss" is helping me right now. I lost my 26 yr. old son, my only child, in mid-December. He died suddenly and under tragic circumstances. A co-worker gave me your book, and I keep it on my bedside table. I read each day's message, and I am amazed with your words, as they often echo my exact grief level and thoughts. I can tell that you have experienced a deep loss just as I have. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this book. Your messages mean so much to me as I face each challenging day and try to move on with my life. TH Greenville, NC Martha, Thank you so much for writing your book Healing after Loss. My wife passed away last year at age 38 and I was really struggling with, well everything. I tried reading other grief books, but just did not have the attention span. The short daily themes and messages you wrote were perfect for my short attention span and "grieving brain." There were many daily themes that helped me immensely, but my four favorites were Jan. 9, March 18, May 4, and Dec. 18. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I've been telling everyone I know about your book. All my best, Dave Haworth (dphaworth@verizon.net) Dear Ms. Hickman, we here at Suncoast Hospice are holding a book drive for our community library. Our library benefits our community and hospice families. We are especially looking for books on the subject of Grief and was wondering if you would be able to donate a couple of your wonderful books to our library. Sincerely, Sandy McLaughlin Suncoast Hospice 5771 Roosevelt Blvd. Clearwater FL 33785 727-523-3472 sandymclaughlin@thehospice.org www.thehospice.org Martha, I can't begin to tell you how much comfort your book, Healing After Loss, was for me. I lost my 23 year old son in an accident over 6 years ago. Someone gave me your book and I found myself anxious to read it daily. I still keep it handy and read it on occasion. Thank you so much for your insight, and for taking time to share it with us. Wanda F. Martha, I discovered your web site while looking to see if "I Will Not Leave You Desolate" is back in print. The daughter of the pastor of Glendale Baptist Church was killed in tragic accident this week, and I immediately thought of you (I think of you and Hoyt often on happy occasions also). I'm thrilled that you have a new novel! Love to you both. Dorothy Gager (dorothy.gager@gmail.com) Aftr reading the comments made by the others, I don't really have anything different to say or add. I recevied your little book Healing After Loss unexpectedly, after the death of my husband and soulmate in May 2009. Words can't convey how almost every page gets right to the core of how I'm feeling. Other than a couple of my dearest friends, your book has been there for me and continues to help me every day. I felt I had to let you know. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Susan B Dear Martha, 12 years ago when my best friend died, a counselor gave me your book Healing after Loss. Since that time I have offered it to at least a dozen people, as they bravely face life after the death of a love one. Last October my almost 94 year old mom died, and every day since I have taken comfort in your book. Thank you for wisdom, insight, courage and resourcefulness in guiding us through what always feels like uncharted terrain. I thank you at the end of each page for the meditations and prayers you shared. Ilene Kasper. ileneKK@msn.com P.S. I also bought the book, Healing After Loss, for my adult daughter so she could have one with her every day. I plan to keep reading mine even after the first anniversary of my husband's death. So many of your thoughts,etc are worth being reminded of as time passes. Cass Price Thank you so much for writing Healing After Loss! My husband of 35yrs. died in March 2009. I read your book each night when I go to bed. The quotes, the readings, and the final little thoughts are so meaningful and help me feel that I can get through this sad time. The way you write makes me feel that you care about me. Cass Price Dear Martha, I lost my husband of 35 years last June; a summer I am not apt to forget any time soon. A grief counselor recommended I get a copy of "Healing After Loss". I read from this powerful little book daily; often revisiting certain sections. It helps me in ways I didn't feel were possible. It lends various perspectives (providing some of the necessary tools needed) to sort through the maze of my deep and overwhelming grief. Thank you so much for this work of art. May you experience as much of life's goodness as you can possibly stand. Martha, we lost our beautiful 17 year old son at christmas 2000 and while on a visit to USA in sept 2001 we found your " healing after loss" and we just want to say thank you for helping us to get thru each day, god bless you and your family. Rodger and Imelda Mc Mahon, Ireland Dear Martha, My sister gave me "Healing After Loss" after the sudden death of my 3yr old son. I thank you for this because it is helping me to get through the most difficult time of my life. Jacquelyn B, CA I had the privilege of reading Such Good People- it is beautifully written, and Martha Hickman captures the range of human emotion in such a real and genuine way. A beautiful book. Nancy Ware Wonderful thoughtful books for all ages. CAS, Nashville. Your writing is captivating, witty, beautiful, and so human. Martha, you have a gift for genuinely sensing the experiences of child or adult, and finding just the right words. ... Phyllis Jean, Nashville Suggestions for New Books? Click and type in a question or comment I just read Healing After Loss. What a wonderful book! Dear Martha, As I was preparing once again to send your book Healing after Loss to friends that lost a son, I wanted to read your biography. Thank you for having an accessible easy spot to say Thank you for the only book of the many I received 18 months ago after the death of my son, that didn't make me mad sad or angry to now be in "this Club" . To have a friend in a book that understood and gave me 1 minute of peace helped me take a step at a time. Thank you!!!! My priest suggested that I read Healing After Loss after my sister's death in October. I didn't think that I could concentrate enough to read, but the daily messages are so meaningful,thought provoking - and short, a great cure for inattentiveness - that I find that I look forward to a message each day. Since September when my sister became ill, the time right after waking up was always the hardest time for me. Your messages have helped me to face the day. I am not a journal writer but I find that the messages are so thought provoking, I make notes in the margins of the book. It gives me a daily assessment of where I have been in my thinking and emotions. Writing has truly helped me to keep in touch with my progress through grief. I would love to suggest that there would be a second printing of Healing After Loss that would include an area on each page where one could write. Many of us can't journal without some encouragement - for me, the messages give me that encouragement and the ability to get in touch with my feelings at the moment. I have given Healing After Loss to a number of people and have suggested that we keep it in our church bookstore. Thank you so much for this wonderful book. It is very comforting to have a collection of messages that was born through grieving. You have great understanding of others. Marilee, Dallas Texas Suggestion for new books: Something that specifically addresses spousal loss. Have you written for teenagers? Pull from your own tribe, although now grown! Thanks for the suggestion. But, even though that age is much closer, more recent in my experience, than 5,6,7-yr olds, I don't feel I know as well who they are-- I think because I was sick and in bed for a long time during those years and had a lot of time to ruminate. This is not uncommon for writers. De Goncourt has written:"Sickness sensitizes a person for observation, like a photographic plate." |